I got it, i referred back on several postings. There was one with a link to RadioShack that had a chart on the wiring and hookup. I figured out that my av and s cable were not going where they were supposed to. Plus there was an extra button/switch on the cable remote to switch between vcr/tv which you need to do to get dvd or vcr video.
YAaaaaaaayyyyyyyyy I am now successfully watching videos.
I wish to thank all that came before me for their information and posts. They helped me out.